The Lord gave me the assignment to expose feminism. And I was SHOCKED when the Holy Spirit put this message on my heart.
I’ve tackled the LGBTQ issue, I’ve tackled the abortion issue, I’ve even tackled the race issue. And apparently, all of that was just a warm-up for what I have for you today.
Of all the controversial subjects, this has to be the most avoided subject in church. But, ladies, if you receive the Word of God today with thankfulness, it’s going to help you.
Let me start by clearing the air. You know full well that I am not one of those preachers that devalue women. I fully realize I wouldn’t even be here without the women in my life.
You can’t label me as some sexist bigot because I’ve proven otherwise through my actions in this church. So, to all my false accusers, shut it because you are full of lies.
All you have to do is examine how I treat my wife, my three daughters, my mom, my grandma, and all the women in this church. You are all valuable, and we couldn’t do this without you.
Women are just as valuable as men. This message is not to question your value. It’s to expose how the enemy has destroyed God’s design for women.
History of Feminism
So, feminism. Let me define it for you.
Feminism – Organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests
It all started in the late 1700s. And like most things in woke culture, it started out mostly innocent. Women simply wanted access to the same education as men.
Then Susan B. Anthony came on the stage to take it to the next level. She spent her life advocating voting rights for women as well as equal pay for equal work.
So far, so good, right? I think we all would agree that women should have access to education, voting rights, and be paid well for their work.
It all is sounding so good on the surface. But it all starts to get a bit gnarly when you look behind the scenes.
The Bad in the “Good”
This was also at a time in history when childbirth was dangerous. A large percentage of women would die during childbirth due to the lack of medical knowledge at the time.
The feminist leaders used this to their advantage and convinced many women that children were a burden and not worth the risk. Plus, women shouldn’t be tied down to the house. They should have a career if they want to!
Why did all of this happen in the 1800s? Well, this was the time of the industrial revolution.
Pre-Industry Women’s Life
Leading up to this point in history, women had the fulfillment of working in a garden to feed their families. The seeds they planted months ago would yield a great harvest for all to see and enjoy.
They sewed clothes to keep their families warm. Prior to the industrial revolution, women had a huge and fulfilling assignment in the home.
Now, our picture of a homemaker is a woman who keeps the house clean, looks pretty, and watches soap operas all day. This false perception is why so many people devalue stay-at-home moms.
Back in the 1800s, there was no birth control. Many women renounced sex so they wouldn’t have to worry about kids and could advance their careers.
Post-Industry Women’s Life
But Margaret Sanger came to the rescue in the early 1900s. She opened the first birth control clinic in America, which later became Planned Parenthood.
Now women could have sex without the nuisance of children. Talk about a win for feminism! You can have sex without consequences while focusing on your career.
According to feminists, this should be the time in history when women were the happiest. But take a look at some of the advertisements of the day.
In the 1960s, all kinds of new medications came on the scene to help women deal with their anxiety. But why are they so anxious? I thought they were getting everything they wanted.
They had the ability to prevent pregnancy. They could even terminate pregnancy with abortion. And they could get out of the house and pursue their career.
Yet, for some reason, women became more anxious than they had ever been.
They no longer had to grow a garden. They just had to run to the store! And they had an automatic washing machine, vacuums, and all kinds of technology to make homemaking easier.
Yet, they were so stressed out that anxiety meds for women became all the rage. How could this be? I thought things were getting better for women.
About Maragaret Sanger…
Another interesting thing you should know about Margaret Sanger, the one responsible for making birth control mainstream, is that she believed in eugenics.
What is eugenics? It’s the practice of trying to improve the human gene pool by preventing the reproduction of people with undesirable traits.
Let me put it in plain English. The whole reason Maragaret pushed birth control was to lower the population of what she considered the lesser of society: the poor and people of color.
That’s why birth control and Planned Parenthood clinics are made easily accessible to these groups of people. It’s on purpose because people like Margaret want to eliminate people they don’t like.
How do you feel about birth control now that you know its roots, or abortion now that you know its roots?
How Feminism affected America
By the 1970s, feminism had led us to a place where male leadership was rejected, motherhood was a curse, and children were a burden.
Feminism even made it acceptable to kill babies through abortion. And they paved the way for sex without boundaries. Who cares what God designed? We’re going to do what we want.
Feminism. Isn’t it lovely? Turns out, anything outside of God’s design doesn’t end well.
It all started with women working to override men to get the same education. And now here were are. Women think they have a right to kill their own babies.
Heck, feminists don’t even know what a woman is anymore. That’s how bad it’s gotten.
Now that you know the history, I have a question for you. Is feminism really about gender equality? Or is it the enemy working to destroy God’s design for family?
There is an undeniable fact in the Old Testament and the New Testament. It is confirmed in scripture over and over from the front to the back. Here it is:
God designed man as head of the household.
Ladies, you can skirt around this all you want to. You can make all kinds of excuses as to why your man shouldn’t be the head of your household. But God is not going to back you up.
God’s design is for man to lead his household.
And I get it. There are a lot of sorry men out there. They have no clue how to lead their household.
But you cannot fix this problem by trying to take over his role. You are always better off submitting to God’s design and trusting God to get your man straightened out.
The enemy is always working on getting us to believe that God’s way is oppressive and man’s way is freedom. That’s why the world hates boundaries and hates structure.
The world wants to do what it wants to do when it wants to do it. It’s all about me and how I feel. I have to be in charge. Don’t put me in a box. I can do whatever I want to do.
Have you adopted the world’s mindset? Because people of God don’t live like this. We honor the boundaries that God has given us in scripture. We submit to His structure for life.
Boundaries are good because they are designed by God. Just imagine if the ocean didn’t have boundaries. We’d all drown!
We actually prefer boundaries until we are taught not to.
There was a study that observed kids on two different playgrounds. One had a fence around it. The other didn’t.
When on the playground with a fence, the kids explored more of the playground than they did at the one with no fence around it.
Turns out we actually feel more freedom to explore when we know the boundaries and understand the structure.
God was specific in his design for males and females. Both are equal in value, but they are unique in their role.
Role of Men vs Women
We find in the book of Genesis that God created man first from the dust of the ground. If you’ve ever wondered why men are so dirty and stinky, now you know.
So there the man was, by himself in the garden. And here’s the assignment God gave him before the woman was even created:
Genesis 2:15 NKJV – Then the Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it.
From the beginning of time, man’s role has been to tend and keep. Let’s break these two words out in the original language.
Tend – To serve another by labor; to work.
Keep – To have charge of, guard, protect, and preserve.
God’s design for Man
Men are designed by God to labor and lead. We are to work for the benefit of others and protect others no matter what it takes.
Sometimes to protect others, you have to do things that they don’t like at the time. To protect your kids from bellyache, you have to say, “No more ice cream. You’re done.”
To protect my church, I’ve had to stand up here and say things that you don’t want to hear. I’ve had to run off everyone who is controlled by deceiving spirits.
Men, if you are not diligent with your work and protecting your family, you are living outside of God’s design. Get your butt to work and do what it takes to protect your family.
God’s design for Woman
Now, let’s take a look at God’s design for women:
Genesis 2:18 KJV – And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.
Ladies, the whole reason you came into existence is because man couldn’t do it by himself. So when you start thinking, “He sure needs some help.” Your right! And you are his helper.
From the beginning of time, a woman’s role has been to help man. He can’t do it without you. Go ahead and remind your husband of that right now.
You may remember that God took a rib out of Adam to create Eve. This means that a woman literally completes a man. The woman brings the missing rib to the table.
But it only works when we submit to the structure that God has designed. Men must work, lead, and protect. Women must help their man by submitting to his leadership.
Oh, man. I said the dirty word: submission. Let me explain why you hate that word so much.
Why Submission Is Hated
Back in the garden of Eden, Adam and Eve were having a good time. They were naked and unashamed. Just imagine the fun they had with each other.
Then one day, Eve started talking to a serpent, which was Satan doing what he always does, trying to get Eve to question what God had said.
“Did God really say you can’t do that? He’s probably just trying to keep something from you.” Has the enemy ever tried this on you?
God created a beautiful garden, and then He set a boundary. They could eat anything in the garden except from this one tree.
Interestingly, God gave this command to Adam before Eve was created. So, Eve didn’t hear the instruction from God. She heard it secondhand from Adam.
When Satan said, “Did God really say you must not eat that fruit?” he was trying to get Eve not to question God but her husband’s leadership as well.
Eve probably thought, “Did Adam really hear from God? I don’t know. He acts pretty dumb sometimes.”
Satan convinced Eve that she could become more like God if she ate the forbidden fruit, so she did. And get this: Adam was just sitting there watching her this whole time, not saying a word.
So, let’s address the elephant in the room. Adam was being a passive husband, not a leader, and definitely not a protector.
If Adam was fulfilling his role, he would have stepped in, stopped the conversation between Eve and the serpent, and cast the serpent out of the garden.
Eve stepped out of her role as well. She thought she could be the leader this time. “Adam, just let me do all the talking.” Eve was the original feminist.
After they ate the forbidden fruit, their eyes were opened, and for the first time, they felt shame about their nakedness. Cue the beginning of sexual struggle between husband and wife.
Oh, if we could live back in the days of naked and unashamed, there would be at least twice as many kids in this room as we have today.
When God showed up at the scene, guess who He called out for? The one who committed the sin first? Nope. He called out for Adam.
God will always honor His structure.
He designed man to be the leader, so that’s who He will go to first.
Men, stop listening to your wives when you know they’re wrong. I know it makes for a painful experience. But when God is leading you, and she disagrees, you follow God. It’ll work out in the end.
God held Adam responsible because Adam was the leader. Men, if you fail to lead and protect when your wife is headed in the wrong direction, you are the one who will answer to God.
The same is true in the church. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people show up to church for the first time with a “word from God” about what needs to change about our church.
If God wants something to change, He’s going to tell me or one of our leaders here. God always honors His structure. He’s not going to correct our church through some random person.
If you believe you are called here to correct me or change this church, you might as well move on to the next one. Because I’m not falling for it. If God wants something to change, He will tell me or one of our leaders. And I’m listening.
Wives, the same goes for you. God is not going to correct your husband through you. He’s going to go straight to your husband.
And if your husband is not listening to God, he definitely won’t listen to you. So, save yourself an argument and pray instead.
Set yourself free. You’re not responsible for your husband. God is. Trust God to take care of it. He’s the only one who can. You might as well step into peace by trusting God.
The consequences of disobedience
After this went down with Adam and Eve, God started dishing out consequences. He started by cursing the serpent. And then He moved on to Eve:
Genesis 3:16 NLT – Then he said to the woman, “I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.”
Ah ha! We found the root of feminism. You will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.
Feminism is part of the curse. It was Eve’s punishment for her sin. Before, she was cool with Adam’s leadership. But now, she was going to covet the leadership role. She wanted to lead.
Ladies, you need to understand. The desire for power over men is rooted in sin. All women struggle with it. Some more than others. It is part of the fallen nature.
But, through Christ, you’ve been redeemed from the curse. You can return back to God’s original design where you rest in your husband’s leadership. Not because he does everything perfectly, but because you trust God’s design.
God’s design for woman is to be a helper for her man. God’s design for man is to be a courageous, hard-working leader for his family and his community.
This is God’s structure. If you don’t like it, take it up with Him.
Is God’s way oppressive?
Feminism distorts Christianity to make you believe that God thinks woman is less than man. Not true. Let me take you to scripture to help you understand:
1 Corinthians 11:3 NLT – The head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
I’ve never heard anyone complain that the head of Jesus is God. We get it. We know that even though God is the head of Jesus, that doesn’t make Jesus any less valuable than God.
Likewise, the head of woman is man. That’s God’s design. But this doesn’t make men more valuable than women. Both are equal in value but unique in their role.
Here’s another way to look at it:
Ephesians 5:23-24 NLT – For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church… As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
Do you believe the church should submit to Jesus? Have you noticed what happens when we don’t?
I know. Your husband is not perfect like Jesus. But nowhere in scripture will you hear God say, “You only have to submit to your husband if he does everything right.”
No, it says to submit to your husband in everything. This is where the blessing is. This is where you find fulfillment. It’s where you find peace: when you submit to God’s design.
So, let me ask you again, is feminism really about gender equality? Or is it the enemy working to destroy God’s design for family?
The Results of Feminism
I used to think that abortion was the most destructive thing in our nation. And a closer runner-up would be the LGBTQ+ movement. But now I see that both are a result of feminism.
Feminism has taken over our society. Women believe they are better leaders. Now men are vilified when they step into their God-given role as a leader.
Feminism has succeeded in getting women to take over the role of men in our society. And as I look around, the results speak for themselves.
Millions of fathers have left the home because they have no purpose there. Feminists have made it clear: they are in charge and don’t need men.
Million of mothers have killed their own babies in the womb through abortion. Feminists have made it clear: motherhood is a nuisance. Avoid it at all costs.
Feminism has caused so much confusion that people now question their gender, which was designed by God before they were even born. People even think two men can get married and have babies.
All of this is a result of feminism. I’m not saying it was caused by women. It was caused by feminism, which was designed by Satan. And anything outside of God’s design does not end well.
When women take charge, this is where we end up. Not because women are less than men, but because they defy their God-given role and covet a man’s role.
How has Femenisim impacted me?
If you want peace and fulfillment in your life, there is no other way than to deny yourself and submit to God’s way. His way is the best way and always produces wonderful results.
Feminism is everywhere. Every person in this room has been impacted by it over and over again. So I am going to end by asking you a few questions to help you determine if you have been infected with feminism.
Do you think there are times when it’s okay to take the lead role away from your husband?
Do you believe there are certain instances where abortion is okay?
Do you believe your career is more valuable than raising children?
Do you believe being a stay-at-home mom is unfulfilling?
Do you try to talk young couples out of having kids too soon?
Now that I’ve exposed feminism, I want to read from Proverbs 31, so you can see what a godly woman looks like.
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work. She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night.
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.
She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.
Ladies, this is God’s plan for you. If you choose to abandon feminism, God will see that you become a Proverbs 31 woman. And here’s the result:
Proverbs 31:28-31 NLT – Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Godly women are absolutely incredible. And how you get there is by becoming a woman who fears the Lord. This means you elevate God above everything else.
Even when feminism looks desirable, you reject it because you know God’s way is better.
Put God first, and you will become a Proverbs 31 woman. Not out of your own strength but by the power of God.